Author M.I.K.E.T Kasadha

  DO YOU KNOW WHAT YOU ARE AND WHAT YOUR JOB DEMANDS?
  Many of us have read and succeeded to obtain better grades. However, we have never found happiness in the careers we take on in this life we live. Certainly, money comes continuously along the way but we do not enjoy its fruits. We are in a state of life others call a mid-life crisis and then others just reduce it to be a partial deal of stress. Nevertheless, whether it is a mid-life crisis or stresses the paramount reality is that your life is depressed.
 Indeed when you look into your life, you wonder and ask yourself what is the problem? I have a job and am getting good money that everyone dreams of or fighting to get the money but where is my happiness. All you know is that you are not happy and actually others people do not know that you’re unhappy but they internally understand that they’re depressed, although you don’t know why you are depressed.
  Depression is the reason why peoples’ gracious marriages break up, depression is why you ask for some days off your work, depression is why the company is doing poorly and because of depression you might lose that job, and still it’s because of depression that you make your home a house. My answer to you about this depression isn’t easy to resolve but the truth is that your depression started way back during your childhood even though you were always leading your classmates and planning for your future- perhaps you didn’t plan properly.
 You often got the best grades and indeed you were leading your class in the subject of geography however you did not get the best in understanding who you are. Though this stress planted itself perhaps thirty years ago now it’s playing its greatest effects on your life. Its concretely recognizable to appreciate that a few years of education times is the determinant period of our entire professional lifestyle and its this period that also determines whether we shall live a stress free life or otherwise.
  Therefore, if who you are conflicts with what you do, then your professional life will be a nightmare. This means that had you put thought to understanding who you are and positively correlated this to what you do, you wouldn’t be getting all of this age’s depression. Having that positive correlation helps you to love your profession and if you love your profession, then you love the money and anything else that comes with it. Wonderfully this helps you not to have a stress-free livelihood.
 Suppose I was a medical doctor due to my good grades but at the same time unable to work night shifts because of my love for slumbering. More so due to the ethical essence of the medical profession it requires me to be prepared because anytime I can be called upon for an emergency. Recognizing that doctors often collide with emergency calls of duty, the profession would often and ultimately affect my sleeping pattern. Thus, conditionally the parallel management between my sleeping addictiveness and my profession job will cause a discomfort both in my life as in its bodily conditions and job conditions. Worst of all this physical and profession imbalance wouldn’t allow me to achieve the optimum rewards of my true self.
  However had I been a vetenary doctor, the issue of emergency calls would not affect my life so much since there would be almost no call during the night when am best having a good relaxing sleep. Indeed, if their any calls at night then this would be minimal as compare to dealing with human life complications.
 More to the above detriment is that I cannot even think of being a medical researcher at all. Because research in the field of medicine requires total dedication and patience. If my habits are not intertwined with seclusion from the normal environment of working eight hours a day and then socialize before I go to sleep, this would mean that I cannot even spend three days in a research enclosure with beakers and chemicals than I would do with people on the social scene. Then ultimately, I have to forget all about becoming a recommendable medical researcher.
  Therefore, as you choose a career, first think about what you are and how you would relate with that career. Am not meaning that only one habit discharges you from not being compatible with a particular career but it is a variety of habits that dictate either your compatibility or your puzzlement with a particular career. Although at the end of your personal analysis, you would find out that there are certain quality traits in your career that shout louder than other attributes.
 This mischief of living in a profession that is not compatible with your inner being makes you dull in that job. For instance, you fail to add knowledge onto such a profession and therefore you fail to develop the profession beyond what your credentials say. Because your in a profession that you’re not comfortable with. Therefore, you cannot be thinking positively about such a profession that is giving you a lot of disquiet and misery. The reality is that you made a mistake several years ago which mistake is intruding a surgery on your progress and sadly it may not be easily rectified today or tomorrow.
  CHAPTER 2
  YOUR JOB IS YOUR LIFE
 

Any job has its complexities especially if your personal traits don’t link with the job. This hardness of the job yields extra agony; however, a job that bonds with your personality characteristics is never hard since you are compatible to the job. More so you tend to take a compatible job’s toughness as a learning lesson or challenge and indeed you become inquisitive to solving your job’s hurdles. Wisely, as you go through the rectification process you learn more about your job from the job itself that is the goodness of expressing what you know best.
 This is the parallel of experiencing a hard job that you’re not bonded to; you totally become reluctant to learn, hence, you don’t bother finding solutions to the job problems because you don’t love the job and you’re not naturally connected to the job.
  Your job should be your life especially noting that it is not easy to deviate from the current mainstream job and become perfect in another wishful job. To take a deviation in some new job; you would perhap need to consider over two years of university study in order to make a better deviation. This is so especially in situations where your current job is unrelated to the career area you are crossing to as an alternative; this can be luckless.
 Now have you ever thought of the fact that your employment is your life and that it is important to enjoy every ebullient bit of your job? Your job is your life because it defines your lifetime sequence; by this fact, I mean a person in any trade will spend 2080 active hours (8hrs*5days*52weeks) of every working year out of 3120 active hours (12hrs*5days*52weeks) on job in a year. To convert those active hours into active working days it implies you’re approximately on the job working for 173 active days (2080hrs/12hrs) a year out of 260 active days (3120hrs/12hrs). Therefore, his means that if you don’t like your job, you’re always distressed for 173 days that are life determinates in a complete year and now believe me you’ve gathered enough sorrow to make you wish not to have lived at all in this world. Noting that the five working days are based Gregorian calendar.
  We all know that most employed people who are distressed at work move with there burdens to their homes. Well as you thought, your anguished will die with peace at home it turns out to be more hectic since your children fight to obtain that parental attention with every practical gesture they exercise and ultimately you end up not relaxing at all. This simply implies that not even your daily after work hours are a jovial interlude. Then when it comes to Saturdays you become more tiresome than on any other working day because you’re going home to have a rest but still unfortunately or fortunately the kids don’t know what demands are on your life. The kids what to play although you’re thinking of how your going to organize for there college education. Therefore the Saturday becomes more and more a hard working day than even two consecutive weekly working days. In many ways, your Saturday mischief reflects itself through Sunday’s activities. Consequently, considering that on Saturday and Sunday you will spend your fulltime living with children and at the same time attending to certain home activities this might mean more stress than the five consecutive working days.
 Then considering the much more active time you spend on the job than elsewhere, you will agree with me that your job should give you happiness and so it should be your passion.
  Therefore if your job is your passion and acceptable by your personal traits, then you realize that for every 40 (8hrs*5days) active hours of every week you are not only working but you are also happy about what you do every weekly day. This truly collaborates to the very fact that you will lack stress on the work and most likely find less stress at home. You make everyday of your life a beautiful stress free day worth living.
 You might be in the most expensive office leather swivel base chair and by its standards there is a great artwork of a table with your country’s flag and corporate emblems sitting on it but believe me all this comfort will fail to diminish the rampantly inclining mental discomfort. Because the traits in the swivel chair and on that wonderfully designed office table with the latest laptop is being demanded more than it can handle; your simply in the wrong office and in a wrong job and at a wrong time. Indeed as the distress activates continuously and as you tend to hold tight into that swivel chair other people are noticing your stress conditions and instantly there planning to get advantage of your apparent occupation weaknesses. This acidifies the distress because as others are planning for your downfall, indeed another group is utilizing this period to defraud your company. The truth is that most accurately your distress started way back when you where still in college and because a lot of time as passed since then you may not be able to change your situation right now.
  Otherwise had you recognized the importance of your persona during high school then your personal qualities would be saving your future now. The simple analysis is that even that rich and wise business person you admire can never dares to start a venture into anything he will not be interested to run, no matter how much money he has or how much the venture would be bringing him.
 Your job is your life, however if you choose a wrong profession your job can become your distress. Generally, because the distress has become alarming to you, it results into finding medical solutions. In due course, you resort to stress pills and you would never ask yourself how the tablets would deal with your job. The truth is that the pills work neither with your body nor with your mind and if analyzed intellectually the tablets would be only poisoning you. The more pills you take, the more you are troubled.
  Any alternative to the stress pills, a good medical practitioner would advise you to have a rest from your daily job. Indeed, for a while you will feel a difference and this is a simple way of understanding that your own job is stressing you to the limits. However for how long will you rest before you are back on the stressing job, not long. Without a doubt if advised to have a rest in order to reduce your stress and you realize how you are missing the job, it does not necessarily mean you love the job. Because you might be missing the social office atmosphere but the career itself would be a hindrance to you since it gathers uncontainable stress. You are having a good office relationship life building your social spirit that isn’t connected entirely to your office position. However, your employment demands a combination of your mental spirit and physical spirit and either one of the spirits or both spirits may be stressed because of the job. This suggests that truthfully, your office social life is good but your physical and mental career life is sinking you to the bottom of depression.
 Had you considered obtaining the right professional calling, your social life would never have been in conflict with the occupation.
  For that reason, the doctor’s advice for a few days rest was not enough, and as an employee, you ask the Human Resource Manager for your monthly leave. The Resource Manager wisely considers your request and the next month or so; your leave is approved with full pay. You smile because there is money in the pocket without loss of any sweat.
 Now that you have obtained the cash without sweat, your costs of transport is swerved to stress pills and of course the gym. You go there to relax but in the end, you only relax your physical spirit and it appears that never is your mental distress cooling off.  Certainly because there are many of your needs you’ve never fulfilled and more so your chances of achieving those material dreams are passing with time. As a result, your depression continues even during your one-month holiday. However, you have started waking up every morning to jog through the park and during the early hours of nighttime you have a walk with your dog for four miles, it currently seems to help. Conversely, when the leave is completed and you return to your job, the same stress confronts you after only one week. The walking and jogging only reduced your job tension but did not cure on-the-job horrendous realities. Now ask yourself how the pills, gym, walking, and jogging resolve the stress problem? My analysis to you is that it eat and swallowed your dollars otherwise at the moment you believe it is a midlife crisis, yes it may be; you call it stress, yes it may be; but the problem is being treated poorly. You have not considered the source of your lamenting trouble. Questions like how, when, who started this quirk you’ve never asked yourself and never have you questioned the fact that you would do better given another different job designed with energetic rhythms of your personality traits.
  Presume your personal characters were Godly crafted for you to be a fashion designer but you are working as an accountant in a technological company. Truly, your personal behavior cannot match with the industrial traits that employ you. You are imprisoned; those are people who have evil on there hands and due to lack of what to do, they only learn what the prison has to offer and not learn a lot more about themselves.
 If you were in this state of mind as an accountant whose personal traits was focused to fashion designing, it would be wise to be an accountant in a fashion label. This would dearly reduce your psychological stress on the job and bring back your passion in the design career life. Because as you do the accounting, your personal traits of being a designer may be reborn through observation of what is on the fashion market now. Indeed as you go on in this current occupation, your contribution could vary from accounting practice to advising on fashion design in your new industry. As you continue working in the new job that is close to your personal traits then later on you would appreciate that the depression problem was not a mid-life crisis but a poor choice of your profession or career.
 

Factually those headaches you intended to carry everyday from work to your resting house will diminish and every 40 hours of your weekly hours that are certainly converted into 2080 hours a year which mathematically result into 173 days a year are always better breathing days of your lifestyle.
 This will help you to completely reduce on your spending for stress pills, gym exercise costs and tremendously help you save this cash to achieve your material dreams. With the above analysis, you can realize how to reduce depression by understanding yourself and staying close to your rightful profession.
  Truly if your personal traits sought much about fashion designing and you ended up in the fashion industry, even if you’re paid less the amount your former accountant job offered you at the technological company, you would find peace of mind and the worth of your mental intellect.
 Evenly to be more foresighted, if you only spent two or three years after switching to your appropriate profession field; you will find a rebirth urge of fashion designing to the extent that you perhaps enroll for a design course. Then somehow, due to the observant mind and experience received in your current accountant job, your progress is positive in the right path. Who knows next time or by the time you quit on your accountant job it is also simultaneously the moment in time that you are heading for your rightful position on earth, and conceivably, you have opened up a fashion label. By the time you are forty years, you own a global fashion name to reckon among the best and now you have labeled your name to live forever after your departure.
  The truth is that it was not a mid-life crisis, it was not your body stress as the sole source of the problem, but you where in the wrong job that could not offer you happiness in this world. Because however much hardcore a piece of work will be, it would not give you plentiful distress if you are in the right career that corresponds to your personal qualities.
 The definite reality is that you have to work no matter how stressful your daily routine offers you in terms of work. However, as you work try to find out almost costless solutions to your depression. Remember that often people say, if you’re in need to switch from one job to another never resign from your current job before you’re sure the next employment has truly absorbed you into its administration system.
  CHAPTER 3
 JOB STRESS, MARRIAGE STRESS, DIVORCE STRESS
 Job Stress is a tough misfortune and if you were married; you would absorb the fact that what you once called a home is apparently a mere house meant for only retreats after your long day’s work. It is a house because it also stresses you and instantly you do not have any immediate solution and indeed you do not have peace of mind.
  Many are the parents with occupational stress but never talk about it; they are not straight towards their partners and indeed, even if the other partner is also much stressed to the limits. Now the virtual conflict arises when each partner wants and waits for the other to read there emotional expressions of nervous tension. In the end, none of the partners consoles the other about the paramount job stress at the office, as the cancer grows either slowly or rapidly eating up there once upon a time a wonderful marriage.
 So when the children come around with tender smiles each parent groans to roar them away towards the other parent. The once good home turns into a sheer address, where the husband, wife and children just retreat to snooze and then early morning they part for work after taking the children to their study schools or colleges.
  They have failed to talk about their job stress and now career trauma is stressing their marriage. Impatiently there about to divorce as they both contemplate which of the two lives they can do without; either the marriage or the job. Certainly almost no parent would leave work for a marriage if he or she really understands the economic times they live in. The children are going to suffer more as a custody-volley consequence from father to mother like any ball. Instantly one of the parents is going to increase on his or her stress because he or she has to take physical care of the children that is if they do not negotiate for joint custody over the children during the divorce negotiations. Another partner may have his share of stress by providing most part of the financial bargain for the children.
 Already the job’s hassle has given birth to another form of stress, which is marriage strain and currently this new type of pressure is transforming into divorce anxiety. Psychologically divorce stress is the hardest hit on life in terms of affecting your emotions and increasing your job stress. This is because each individual salary earner (husband or wife) would apparently handle the same costs that were often swallowed up by two salary earners. Consummately you would find out that the wife and the husband; each has a home for the children. Therefore there will be two homes, two beds for each child, two dinning rooms, two setting rooms and then add on other accessories. In away the parents have activated their stress through increase on expenditure by each divorce parent. Truly, they both never solved anything because even there divorce is a catastrophe.
  Even up to a time divorce took shape with its own strain, the divorced parents have never thought about what in fact caused their breaking up of a wonderful marriage. Truly, they do not know that job stress was transported to the bedroom which caused more stress that resulted into divorce and which separation is also becoming economically stressful.
 Now when you consider divorce being economically stressful, it simply implies that your job is still traumatic. In away you are going to make money and never know how it was spent because your children are living a double lifestyle and more so due to the very fact that individual spending is more costly than joint spending.
 

As life continues along this path it implies that, there will be no much savings for the future to aid your retirement or even help you realize your dreams. Therefore, the career pressure is the most important circle of your life to be healed since it causes and actually begins a circular flow of stress from one kind of stress to another.
 As a result of being in an inappropriate career position you obtain work stress that leads to catalyzing your marriage to break up and if the marriage ends it automatically creates pre-divorce trauma that strains you economically to continuously affect your job. Indeed your divorce did not solve anything; it only managed to make distress aggravated to the altitude of miserly.
  Note that even when you de-link job stress from marriage stress you would evidently agree with me that what failed the relationship was enclosed in the partners’ habits. You know one fact is that sexually anyone can be a partner of another but not emotionally, hence, if you consider the personal traits of a person and you draw a parallel with another person who would be an anticipated partner, they would differ in many ways. This difference in personal traits is very significant because it shows how unrelated we are from one another. Truly if you took time to study your perspective partner’s personal traits may be from high school records or from close friends you would easily come to understand where your marriage would be in ten years time or later on given the outcome of your inquiry.
 American public official Adlai Stevenson said that laws are never as effective as habits. Otherwise had the laws been effective, the law of marriage between husband and wife would not end in a divorce. However, because habits are much like spontaneous effect actions they take an upper hand against the law.
  Now because your marriage has failed, believe me at a certain point it is worse than losing a job. Because the moment you lose a job you instantly start looking for another job. However, after a marriage break up you first have a tendency to heal the broken bondage which essentially takes time and still it takes time to accept another person in your life. Nevertheless, if it does not take time to heal a broken bondage and instantly you obtain or accept your second partner then that divorced partner would be probably carrying an emotional problem. He or she cannot be without the opposite sex or he or she has a habit of having snap acceptance without reading the habits of his incoming new partner or otherwise; but he or she isn’t the best person to pick for long and lasting liaison. I would dearly only say that if truly you recognize having trouble of not being patient in finding a partner try marrying your high school sweetheart, somebody you understand. Otherwise, the greatest risk you run into during this age of billions of people and millions of cultures plus thousands of alternatives that are connected through the global communication network is you resulting to carrying a history of broken marriages or affairs.  Worse than that is living with a partner who will most probably turn you into the next human casualty just because you did not take time to investigate the habits of your heartthrob. Now, either you choose to know your partner early enough or you choose not to know them until later after the offensive, which of the two is the best approach?
 Why not save yourself from future regrets and tears by taking time to correlate your habits with the habits of your prospective partner. Try to understand how much of his or her habits you both share and how divergent are some of your habits from one another and, most importantly what is the likely past, present and future impacts that could result from those habits in a positive or a negative point of view.
  Somehow, because mum and dad are divorced and the little children are often littering from one parent to another, it appears okay to them. The children suddenly have never known how married people live until they visit there uncles and unties who are breathing in a lasting marriage relationship. Besides that, the children have learnt from observations that mum, dad’s divorce is perhaps another stage in the marriage circle, and that in life divorce is okay. Indeed it has already been proved that for every divorced parents there 9 out of 10 chance that their children will divorce during there turn of marriage. As a reproductive effect, daughters of teenager mothers are more likely to become teenage mothers themselves, and children who grow up in single parent home are less likely to marry, more likely to divorce, and more likely to have children outside of wedlock.  This predicament lives on like a curse from the parents to the children. In the same breath that children learn spending habits from their parents so will they also learn any other habit from their parents.
 This connects me to the fundamental fact of trying to trace any person’s habits especially marriage habits, the easiest way to predict whether your partner will divorce you or not is by reading the memoirs of his or her parents’ marriage.
  Indeed your marriage is very important, had it not been these tough economic times; marriage would surpass the importance of your job. Because for every week a married couple spends 61 hours together less night resting time when you consider Saturday’s 18hours plus Sunday’s 18hours and, however on working days every married couple spends 25 hours together less the night resting period and on the job working period. This implies that in a year every married couple spends 3172 hours together less sleeping time. These 3172 hours (61hrs*52weeks) converted into days would result into 132 days (3172hrs/24hrs) less working hours every year. Then considering marriage as a life long relationship and assuming that your marriage concedes to fifty years of togetherness, which is a golden jubilee this implies having had 6608 days (132days*50yrs) of a happy marriage.
 On the other side of the river, if a marriage fails it risks having a long breath of loneliness for about 132 days each year and assuming you live for 50 years then you’re to survive more than 6608 days of loneliness. Believe me only two years of loneliness to a person who has ever been in a marriage before is too much a time to influence a lasting sorrowful memory they would never forget.
  Had you considered the habits of your future partner before and how those characters would react with your own behaviors, you would have saved a lot of time wastage, misfortune and money. In actual sense after a divorce, the time wasted may not be the time you spend in searching for another partner but the most past time lost and wasted with the person you divorced.
 Therefore, the relation of comparing your personal traits to your compatible job realistically should also emphasize whom you are choosing as a partner, hence, compare your way of life with those of your prospective partner. That is how important your practices are, they expose you to the right job and at the same time, they can show you the best partner to walk down the aisle.
  Now if you think your personal habits cannot guide you in understanding the materials you like and dislike, do you think that money or beauty can help you analyze anything about yourself? Definitely it can’t because even the money you get is a result of your habits and the beauty you see is only a cover of a hardback collection of the good and the bad. For that reason you need to read the book and your will understand the true beauty or ugliness of the beautiful cover.  Yes, money only comes at the end of the month, your habit is forever and well as beauty is forever but it is a blanket full of numerous habits, which you need to learn and analyze very well. Otherwise, if you found a person who is so pretty and you never considered if he or she had inner beauty you may as well be marrying everyone’s woman or man.
 Then as you look back after your divorce, you are depressed for the very fact that you never knew that your partner would end up acting as badly as the way he or she did. You’re also depressed for the other fact that you would never raise a happy family and relatively the dreams of having a family vacation are doomed and more so your first marriage failure is reassuring you how difficult it is to live with any man or woman. However, you have never questioned how effective your partner’s obsessive smoking has contributed to the failure of your dreams. You are not thinking about the obsessiveness with the saloon and the beers that have reduced your dream of having a family vocation by consuming the best of your wallet. Otherwise, you had accepted that your wife or husband is a chain smoker and as a family you never planned how her or his smoking budget would affect the family and how best you could go about it solving such a dilemma. Therefore, by the time your ten years in the marriage you should have saved enough money to take care of your partner’s TB diagnosis at any one point in time. In away or another many habits from the smallest like home stealing, smoking, drinking alcohols, adultery, beating and others  break up families.
  Today a Company is known as an artificial person and indeed the western world has pioneered in management of these business organizations through planning, controlling, coordinating, communicating and many other management principles are applied depending on the author.  No company can survive in a competitive business world without proper management that is why they establish a Company management hierarchy that includes the human resource level of management. This hierarchy is concerned with human welfare and therefore the Company wants to make sure that it is recruiting a person who will relate very well with its future Company objectives.  However, even a Company has to understand what it stands for and therefore what it is going to offer to its environment that’s why today’s Companies spend millions of money to communicate to the public about what they deal in, how they behave. This is done to help the public to understand the Companies there yet to meet if it so happened, hence Companies also attract customers through showing there behaviors and truly if a bad rumor walked around about such a Company then the public stops dealing with the entity. Apart from the Company advertising itself, it also inclines to understanding what the customer needs, not only because its easy to adjust the Company products than to adjust the customer requirement but also it helps in creating loyal customers to the Company and as a result there is mutual understanding between the company and the public..
 Therefore, so should it be with any marriage if it has to avoid any future stress. In a way if you cannot have the habits of your partner on your fingertips then you are most likely to give in to whatsoever he or she does. Oh! Sincerely you may as well be in a marriage illusion. Your may need to adjust yourself to the habits of your partner yet this is not easy.  Indeed, it is unfair since one-partner ends up giving out too much of himself or herself, while receiving too little from the other partner. However, had you taken time to discuss those few collective expensive habits it would perhaps breed a good marriage. Therefore just like you plan for an artificial person or Company in order to succeed, also in a similar manner plan for a person you do not know, its better you plan with him in order to have a successful marriage.
 If you cannot sit down for every few hours of a month with your partner to plan for your marriage expenses in that particular time frame how then are you going to live a good life with everlasting commitment and love to each other for over twenty-five years or more. Now you shouldn’t only plan for the wedding, it could be the only first and last dream you both share together, then what happens after the honeymoon, you can’t plan for your next step in life and how then can you plan for an increased family with children if you can’t plan as husband and wife. It is now after getting children that you are understanding that your husband is guy or your wife is a lesbian. Why did not you know about this before you wedded? You never bothered to plan; you never bothered to find out what truly your lifetime customer needs and who he or she is like from the inside. Therefore, the company or marriage fails because you undermined the details of your objectives.
  CHAPTER 4
  

 COLLEGE STRESS OR COLLEGE GRACE
 My friend Rachael does recall very well her first college school; it was stressful to her. Due to that nervous tension, she hated it because it did not give her time of her own. Every second of every minute of every time of each day was time programmed for her life. She would wake up at 5:00 in the morning and clean the dormitories, go for morning porridge, run to class, go for break, back to class, out for lunch, back to class, out for clubs or sports or fatigue or agriculture, go for super, go for preps and the day would end at 10:00 p.m. this was a weekly day. In adding together, indeed any other day was engulfed in a tightly managed timetable as explained. The school’s small environment encamped with a severe minute-to-minute program stressed her to the limits. She quickly realized this was not her kind of studying environment; a college that served the students throughout but did not give an appealing period that would offer its clients peace of mind. It was not her mental choice, especially due to the very fact that she did not like non-substantive orders, injustice from a mere dwarf because they hold a sheer momentary position in the college. This was the cream of the environmental psychological stress to Rachael in this college. Though this college in question was not her choice, academically Rachael often appreciates that many are the people who have excelled and truly acknowledged the college’s services. Substantially every excelling former student is thankful because the college taught them time management and indeed hard work.
  After a year and a half, Rachael made a decision to change her college. Indeed her next college was a better place that offered a period of grace. Immediately after lunch at 1:30 p.m., students had time to rest until the games period that started at around 4:00 p.m. this period of grace was the revolving point in Rachael’s life. In the former college every after lunch, she had to siesta in class.  However, when it came to her new college; if Rachael was to doze after lunch then she would go and rest in her dormitory.
 In her former college to siesta was a big problem for her and believe me when a teacher was doing his or her work Rachael was dozing. Therefore her results were bad since every day Rachael lost an hour or so during the class siesta, hence in a college term of three month she would have approximately loss 90hours if you translated this to a 12hr day the result would be a loss of 7 to 8 complete days.
  The significance of this peaceful period to Rachael is that it made her reflect on life in a positive way and she asked herself the rear question to most students, who she was? This is a question she could not answer in one day therefore it took her long to answer this question but it is the question that made Rachael who She is today. Allow her to differ with anyone else in her former college, she was so stressed and due to this fact Rachael believed her mind wouldn’t have grasped any opportunity to ask itself the same critical question that would let her analyze who she was. Because in her former college every time was programmed for her and in her new college Rachael had sometime of her own to program for herself and that was wonderful, it made Rachael think about herself.
 As time walked on she realized how publicly modest her social life was and then she asked herself how would somebody like her survive in a world where communication is very essential. In the face of this genetically grown burden, she recognized that personally writing should be her tool of feedback and feed forward. Fortunately, she also apprehended that normally her study revision would never be complete and understood without writing every note she had read- this being a method of testing her memory. In away she sought herself being a writer and immediately Rachael’s spirits became observant because not only had she found a solution to her unsocial behavior but she had also understood who she was. In addition to having the ability to write, Rachael found herself being a cheap criticism point of attack from her classmates because of her moral solitude; especially due to the very fact that she was not social. Rachael’s greatest defense she would always declare is that loneliness gave her a thinking mind, she was always meditating well as others promised her that she would become nuts due to her idiosyncratic mindset. Concretely in this apparent time Rachael has come to learn that to be a novelist you have to accept loneliness as your social scenery.
  During that time, she had not selected literature as her subject to study nevertheless her performance in English was good though not very good but averagely perfect. Formidably, Rachael realizing that she wanted to be a novelist it propelled her to calculate how to go about achieving this vision. Since she wanted to be a writer, she recognized that her knowledge awareness had to have a wide coverage, in other words she needed to be conversant about almost everything. Hence, when it came to a point of choosing the major subjects she was to sit for during her Ordinary level examinations, Rachael took a risk of studying science subjects at the cost of ignoring other subjects like accounting, literature in which her performance was good. This meant she had to read physics, chemistry and biology. The essence of this move was for her to become unlighted about the sciences because when she was to proceed to Advanced level there would be no way for Racheal to study sciences and as a result she would be studying literature to augment her writing skills.
 Indeed when Rachael joined the advanced level as the final half of her college studies, she choose literature as one of her subjects so as it would feed her more about the tricks of writing. Truly, she fell in romance with this literature subject; it amused her and pleased her soul. The intriguing mystery of a person writing a novel and tuning it to eighteenth century setting and instantly the reader would feel as if he or she was living during that particular period of time was amazing to Rachael.
 

So she has never regretted her past decisions and even through her financiers rejected the fact of advancing her career in writing in preference for a business career Rachael had to find away of keeping herself on the course of learning and writing literature. Good enough BBC waves had also surfaced in her almost radio wave empty atmosphere. Rachael has learnt a lot from this radio station and truly most times when she’s writing she has to listen to the radio because not only does she learn how the English flows but it also enhances her knowledge on the latest influences in science fields and the arts. For those who have been listening to BBC radio service would agree with her that you instantly become rich with information as a listener to this particular worldwide radio.
 During her vocation Rachael choose not to look for a job but she decided to enroll for a BBC African Performance Competition and though her plays were not successful it did not stop her from writing. Soon she also wrote a poem and later it joined another international competition and although it didn’t win a prize, this poem of Rachael was selected to be inclusive in an anthology entitled Woodland Echoes which apparently can be found in the international library of poetry. She is proud of this poem since it was her first publication. As of now she has written three novels and though there not published yet it has never worried her because a novel cannot rot anyway it is not a tomato Rachael just need to be patient. As of now, she is writing her forth novel and not the last. she has a collection of poems and she has gathered an assortment of African sayings. In addition to all the above she has a pair and one written plays. The result of her writing is not only confining her to books but also as of now, she has designed a board game labeled Astrologame. This leisure game was designed five years later after she had absorbed the idea and immediately after that design, she started building hints on her next board game labeled Numerologame. The Numerologame is to be designed with an essence of improving the performance of worldwide students’ mathematics challenges. Well as she is crossing into numbers, Rachael says that is for a short while because letters are her soul food. Notably, she is capable of designing Crossword puzzles and Codeword puzzles but the most important element in this puzzle talent capability is that Rachael is thinking of launching her own and completely new type of puzzle in this world.
  However, what keeps her writing is the very fact that she found out who she was and what is deserved of her in order to contribute to this world.
 Therefore had Rachael not left her first college she would perhaps be living in ultimate stress or even this distress trauma would have killed her. As a result, she was distressed for seventeen hours of everyday in a period of nine month each year. Nevertheless, many are the former students of Rachael who have joined the military and some how she believes the college played an important role for them to ease on thier military training pressure. At the same time, Rachael meet another former student who standardwise had more privileges and time during her college lifestyle than Rachael, who truly acknowledged the fact that the college was a stressful environment. Despite the fact that the college called Rachael’s former colleugue back to study for his Advanced level education she declined. In submission, she compliments that the college would lock you away from the real world.
  If your school gives you stresses please think about the alternatives, otherwise your school could be the first stage of a long and miserable life. Imagine being stressed at school and when you return home, it is also a nerve-racking environment because your parents are in a mid life crisis as a result of historical stress whose origin cannot be traced. It would appear that from the start of your study period in college and university and as you headed for the work environment, you where going to be in distraught phenomenon because from a traumatic college you obtained a distressful career. Yes a stressful career because that career is not relating to your personal traits. You choose your career when the mind was in disorder, you did not know who you were and even now, you do not know who you are.
 A good school in this age should have everything good that makes a student relax and its programming should not be absorbed in a demanding environment. To take a child to a college without a library and even then a library has never been in the future consideration for establishment, it simply means that self driven learners in such a school will have stress of trying to learn widely or ahead of their times. In the end, that school is failing the student to recognize that he could become a good researcher in future. Therefore, the student makes a wrong decision regarding his career as he only follows grades and forgets his personal attributes like the ability to find information. The result is a stressful career for the rest of their life.
  So is a school without a laboratory; you cannot call yourself a future scientist to be while in an institution without laboratories. Until you truly succeed through the laboratory practical than you are on the right path of excellence, otherwise the good grades alone might not be enough indication for a prosperous career. Consequently, to be in a college without a physic laboratory and you consider becoming an engineer in the near future is an academic illusion that will certainly make you stress full during the times of your career’s progress. This has also happened in the arts subjects; to start with is the study of literature, many are the students who graduate in literature but have never written even a short story since they left university.
 As much as any school does emphasize on offering theory and practical teaching so should it do with its extra curriculum activities. Today the already well off persons we find along our career path could have benefited significantly as a result of those extra curriculum activities rather than the good grades. These are activities that help students relax to there best spirits from the subject theories and practicals that boost the students’ physical capabilities. Indeed, in a truly well designed school with enough extra curriculum activities would be the best for that child who obtains worse grades since he might end up becoming the perfect swimmer of his generation. The next point from his talent you would hear that he is representing the country as an Olympic competition swimmer. After serving the country as a swimmer in world competitions, he is elevated to being the national swimming instructor. Then from that position he might become head of the swimming committee at the age of 41 and within his 50s’ the country considers him to become the minister of sports because he brought glory and honor to your country in the field of sports and particularly in swimming.
  Then if your child is in a school which employees a teacher he or she fears or dislikes for any reason or another, try to find a solution to such a problem. If that teacher guides students through the core subjects of mathematics or English, which subjects are important and taught everyday then unmistakably understand that your child is stressed every two to four hours of each day. The school itself becomes a strain because of one teacher. The outcome is that your child will never understand the teacher’s subject, worse more such hatred of a particular subject might pass on from one subject to another resulting into hating studies altogether. It will be the beginning of your child’s pressure in the future since the child failed to approve his or her true personal attributes with regard to his or her grades to channel himself or herself in order to obtain a stress free career.
 That is why personally, I disagree with endless punishments of any student by anyone. To punish a child several times for the same act is the most awful wastage of time. That act would have revolved into a habit and behind that evil act may be there is a perfect profession. Now if your endless punishments is used, it would mean you are changing a child from his or her true revolving personality and you are making that child to loss her or his true profession.
  Looking at the other side of the coin or story, if a student managed to pierce another with a compass through the others eye; yes he should be punished. However, if a similar act happiness more than trice, please save your money for a good retirement. Understand that your child cannot be whatever you what them to be but he or she can truly qualify as a good executioner. If you decided for him that he or she joins university, well that is fine on the reality of aiming him or her to acquire good grades but if you’re wise this child could become a good eye doctor, if you twisted around this anger of endangering the eyes and it becomes his passion of saving the eyes. Remember this child despite is impulsive attack on the eyes; he or she can obtain a degree and perhaps attain a good job.
 Notwithstanding the above, you as a parent will always be worried all the time about your frenzied child because you never know when and to whom he or she will really hurt next. You never know when his or her old spirit returns and this fear takes you to a fundamental fact that your child might end up in jail. Truly, as a parent you are stressed by your child but at the same time you are stressing your child to live with a people that he may hurt and ultimately he joins the jail. So eventually, when your child quarrels with his boss he almost killed him and had it not been the other office associates, the boss would not have been in a comma but a casket.
Regrettably, had you decided not to waste you dollars on university education and you took this child to police with a recommendation for him or her to train as an executioner, your child would be in prison-not as a lifetime prisoner but he would be there as an executioner. This job might be or appears to be bad for any parent to think of but the fact is that your child would be doing a job that is correlated with his/her personal traits.
  Truly, instead of you visiting the jail continuously to see your criminalized child, your child would be visiting you after his job at the prison, which job pays him monthly and it comes along with retirement and pension benefits. The fact is that you would have saved your stress and at the same time, you would have saved the economy of those free dollars that would be incurred to take care of your jailed son. Because your child would be killing by the effect of the law and at the same time, he would be doing a job that goes hand in hand with his personal traits.
 Next time you realize that your child is very argumentative don’t find ways of stopping him or her; in fact catalyze the argument, make sure you positively disagree with him or her almost everyday and later acknowledge whether he or she was fairly on the right side or the wrong side of the argument. With time, you would have developed your child to being a good debater and eventually your child would perhaps be the next best attorney in living memory of your State. Later as both of you reflect back, you will always remember the arguments you held and taking into question what they’ve breed today would give you more strength to achieve more as the bond between the two of you grows stronger. After all your child would be in a profession that he or she can best exploit and instantly it’s a career that doesn’t give him constant worry; so he might rewrite history. Hence, do not beat that child just because he has challenged you, perhaps you are stressed but do not pass on your agony too another innocent person.
  For that reason, that moment you find your high school sweetheart roofing your boss’s house do not hold your chin in surprise. In fact, if you look back into her life, you would perhaps absorb the authenticity that she was always in the company of boys; often she did boys’ activities. Now she is doing real men’s work. However, in doing such work that former sweetheart is still in the company of boys at only a different age. Indeed as they build they share there collective jokes characterized by their profession. Well as you continue absorbing there jokes, you understand that this group of builders is not characteristically obscene and abusive to any passerby as the other builders. She does not belong to the obnoxious men or seem to be with such men. Somehow, you recognize that such a difference could have come into effect only psychologically by your former sweetheart’s presence. Yeah! it is her great contribution to the construction industry, she managed to rebuild apart of it.
 What you may never know is that your former high school sweetheart is not stressed at all with her career. Wonderfully everyday when she retires to her place, she remembers how her hands built the roof of there home, something her husband would not do or even be able to measure the required geometrical figures for the roof. Apart from her house, she knows all those roofs that were engineered by her hands. She is truly happy because she puts roofs over men’s houses and somehow she feels like the man of all those homes. However, the issue is that she hundred percent likes the company of males and she maintained that relationship by deciding to become a construction engineer.
 

Truly, now that she’s in a unique job because of her gender, every man wants her to construct his roof at the same time construction companies are calling her with fat favors in order to woe her on there teams. They know it will promote their image. By the time you realize the truth behind her success it is because of her traits that she is doing well, and instantly you will recognize that you do not know your traits and indeed you don’t understand yourself. You might never know the power and luck that is embodied in your personality traits.
 Recounting on childhood, we all had those childhood dreams of wishing to be an engineer when we saw one servicing you parents wagon. The next day you noticed a doctor with a stethoscope and you wished to become a doctor, then the following morning sunrise comes with its changes as you wish to become a flying person so that you travel through the blues because you observed your neighbor is always smart in his Pilots Combat. Clearly, every profession that interests you becomes your dream profession. We all go through this stage and it is acceptable because it creates ambition. Even  if we’re young at the time, the very fact that we could see a doctor and we anticipate to be doctors; it’s a learning lesson to understand that you can’t be one at that particular moment of time but later you can be a doctor. This happens in our earliest lifetime when we almost what to be everything despite your lack of grades, personal traits, effort and suitable forecast.
  However, my regard is that by the time your half way through your secondary education level any student should be concretely aware of what he wants to be in future. If by then you are not conscious of what you want to become and how that line of business correlates with your personal traits then you are heading for tragedy. It implies that you have started a journey colored with trauma and you will live in the world by default. To those students who are aware of their ambitions, are better off than those who do not know their ambition. However, having an ambition is not enough because if you select an ambition whose required personal traits you do not own, that ambition takes you half way to your dreams and then it abandons you or you abandon it. Nevertheless, the ambition never aids you to achieve the totality of your dreams.
 In the case of a person whose ambition is to be a professional carpenter like Jesus’ earthly father. Still, you do not understand why you want to be a carpenter. Nonetheless, the fact would be that because you love what you see as a result of the profession that’s why you love to be a carpenter; I mean you like the end chair, table, beds, doors that you notice in the city shopping store. However, you’ve never considered your poor unfriendly relationship with the plane, gimlet, brace, paintbrush, spirit level, pliers, drill, file, chisel etc this truly and strictly tells you that you don’t want the process of carpentry but you only love the end product obtained as a result of woodwork. This simply means that you cannot be a carpenter but perhaps you could be a good furniture art designer because you love the resultant product and now the important aspect would be whether you are truly a good artist and whether your geometry is superb. Nevertheless if you profoundly wanted to be a professional furniture designer but you did not handle art and geometry quiet well, then later in time you are most likely to have a career problem. Well as you might even open up office blocks the effects of your poor art and geometry will be reflected in the resultant furniture. As time unfolds, you realize that every firm knows how poor your furnishings art is and for this reason, the available workshops around the city cannot take your designs. The fact of the matter is that ten years ago, you choose your ambition but it did not relate it to your personal traits. In the end, your projected dream job suffers and concurrently your stress levels rise gradually.
  Now for a student who understood his personal traits well and truly related them to his likes  for the carpentry tools and also noting that he had good grades in geometry, this student is well suited to be a carpenter and there great chances for him to succeed to greater heights of his profession.
 In the same light, it is like a person whose career dream is to become a lawyer but he cannot stand up and address a gathering of more than ten people. Truly, this person will attain good grades because he has an ambition to achieve and in no time wasted, he attains a bachelor’s degree in law. The unfortunate part is that he cannot present himself before the jury and convince the jury that his or her client is innocent. Definitely, this graduate cannot best serve anyone let alone a non-advocate company. It is straight forward that he or she has wasted enough money on an ambition he cannot nurse. His ambition lands straight into a full stop and continuously he gains immeasurable stress levels. Perhaps he or she had chosen the law degree because all his or her peer friends were narrating how much money flows to the lawyers. Nevertheless, did they ever consider the personal traits a lawyer desires to own?
  Good enough law being an arts programme, there could be away forward into another profession without much tussle. However, if your ambition is in the sciences and you fail to achieve it, you might at the same time fail to deviate to the right course.
 Consequently, because this lawyer is your nephew and his in search of a job, you employ him into your company’s management as an assistant company secretary. Within a few minutes of employing your nephew, you later employ the stressed carpenter to be part of your workshop team in the company. Not knowing that the two new employees are career stressed you quickly elevate the lawyer to be a complete top company secretary and the carpenter becomes the workshop supervisor. If you were keen, you would notice a change in the company’s general performance and immediately react after analyzing the source of the problem. However, if you are not observant your company would have inherited stress from the new recruits and you are unaware of this hassle. Certainly because the sales trend slows down, even the quality slowly declines against your competitors who hire stress free professional personal. Indeed your company is only sinking because of career stress attained from strained recruits. They did not plan for there careers well, how then can they manage to plan for the company? Indeed, within two months if you have not found out the origin of the company’s problems, your company has already lost its number one position in the market.
 Hence, a person old enough who never knows his ambitions at all and another who knows his ambition but never tries to achieve it plus another who knows his ambition and tries to achieve it but only ends on its door step, the three persons have the same stress and all of them have failed whether you tried or not. Truly it is factual that all the three persons at that late age do not know there personal traits. An ambition is a person’s desire to achieve success at all costs and therefore if you do not attain that challenge it keeps on haunting you because you have spent a lot in terms of time and money and you do not believe you are nowhere. Above all, you question yourself that why others have achieved there ambitions and you have not come close to realizing the same ambition. However, what you might never understand is that those who achieved their dreams it is not because of some magic but having analyzed an ambition that is actually compatible with their personal traits. As for you, the ambitious dream you choose was not connected at all to your personal characteristics and consequently, you are depressed. You think bad luck follows you and you are unable to progress in life but you never think about the origin of your disappointment or stress.
  CHAPTER 5
   

 INFLUENCE YOUR EDUCATION AND DON’T
  In this economic age how do you rate a person who went through college and university but was unable to obtain a job and more so he could not even create a job for himself. Another person drops out with a decision to deal in computer business and indeed, he becomes a successful businessperson.
 The difference between the two persons is that the university graduate attained enough grades in a course he perhaps did not like or know. Moreover, a course that controlled him to the point that he didn’t know he would fail in the job market search and worse of all, that he would fail to create his own business even if its capital was only 1000 dollars. The fundamental question you need to ask yourself is that what part of your education are you in control of, it is that part of learning within yourselves (personal traits) that is related to the career you are undertaking. Significantly these are parts of the syllabus were you match your personal traits with a fundamental point of the relevant education. For instance, you are studying world war and its effects or lessons to the world, that is the educational part of it, however have you considered the history of your life and its effects or lessons to your society. If you have never thought your life as a history in making definitely it might not help you to study world war history. If truly you have no lessons from your own life then you are most likely to underestimate the importance of world war. In a way you are relating the education control with your personal trait control and therefore your education and personal skills move in unison.
  Now on the side of the other drop out, his success would be much attributed to the fact that he is involved practically in his dream job and at the same time he is doing what he wants. He isn’t working because someone told him how profitable the computer business is but because he knows is personality traits; if you investigated him/her you would reconsider that he is often looking out for the latest technology and indeed before any newspaper publishes the new model of x computers, he already has one for his customers. If such a successful person called you to join him, I know many of us would run to him because his company makes an overturn of 500 million dollars. However has you rush to him you have not considered how your personal traits will react in the computer business, what you are going to learn from the company, what are you going to add to the company. In one way or another, you lose yourself within an industry that hardly matches with your true practical identity. For the reason that really, if somebody looked at you and you also analyzed yourself, you are actually supposed to be an architecture. Instantly even your movement is geometrical, therefore you never take off to any journey before understanding how many miles your covering. Which routes you are taking? Where are you going to have a rest and how long is it going to take you to reach your destination? How will your return be designed? Which kind of weather are you going to find? Therefore, which kind of clothes are you supposed to pack? Whom are you going to meet? Actually, you are fond about measuring everything in terms of length and time, which later moves you to the weather and its habitants.
 It is therefore important you define whom you are and what you want to do according to your personal traits. This would help you to have some control over your education.
  This moves us to the effect of peer groups and indeed most times students succumb to resultant mistakes sought from peer pressure. Peer groups are only best if you all have common personal traits, whether those traits are evil or good, it would help all of you either way. If you do not share the same personal traits then please avoid peers influence otherwise you risk losing your true personal traits in order to succumb to the group traits. If you cannot believe this, I would like you to think of the difference you pose today that you did not confirm while in high school with your peers. That difference is simply expressed and reflected in the jobs you do and the jobs your high school peers are exercising now. The deeper the difference in those jobs you are doing is simply a way to say that you all have different personal traits and therefore you were required to undertake your academic decision far different from your peer social decision. Had all of you been with common personal traits and wisely decided relating them to the respective good subject grades during your high school education, then the entire peer group would be doing almost similar jobs. Indeed, the peer group would be more coherent during its career times than it was before because of a strong historical bond of personal trait and career attachment within the peer group that was created while in high school.
 I continue to say that unless you know who you are and how you relate to the various fields of education that will lead you to a responsible career; you are also likely to know the right peer group to stick within. Otherwise, you are also likely to misplace yourself if you do not know who you are and what is good for you.
  Most times in various circumstances we’re misled by others. Your own parents might be the first misleading factor of your life. Take the case of a student in boarding school, she or he spends nine months every year in a learning sanctuary far from his or her parents and the only period he or she would have with them is during holidays, which holidays cover only a quarter of the entire year. Adamantly because dad or mum is spending and sending you to college or university she or he thinks you should learn physics, biology and chemistry because scientist are getting more money or perhaps your college report says you have done well in those science subjects. However, your trait dictates that you are naturally a lazy person and indeed, you are one individual who will not perform well as a doctor. For a fact, you acknowledge that you would do well as an artist although your performance in such a subject was average. Justifying the latter statement, I concur with who ever agrees that you as an artist your laziness can be an asset because you give yourself time through that laziness in order to bring out that perfect picture you are holding at the back of your mind. Surely, that is the right job for you and it is the job you want, which job rhymes with your personal traits.
 Although you did well in the sciences, you do not wish to be a doctor otherwise, I foresee your known slowness with the patients causing them to die and truly, you might never reinstate a person after an operation in your command. Because of this trauma, the community demands for your transfer, but a transfer to which place that would require its patients to be in your risky hands.
  Accept this phenomenon exists and you as a student with a positive analysis of yourself, you should not look at the money bit of it but consider the pleasure of your entire life. You want to be an artist because that is what your traits and passion say and your grades are not all that bad as an artist. Your parents want you to become a doctor because of the money involved and perhaps for there own personal prestige of having a child who is a doctor. However, you as a student should understand that you are living for your life and not their lives. If by duress you accept their suggestion then you may be trapped in the world of misery, you will be living your parents’ life but never will you live your own life. Every time and then you will always remind yourself of the road you wanted to take and knowing the road you’re driving on, you will hate yourself. One reason would be derived from the fact that you had planned for your future and failed to live with it but the future your leading now was planned for you. Note that there is no success built on money.
 You will always be stressed as you remind yourself that I am a doctor because my parents wanted me to be a medic otherwise my entire self was programmed to being an artist. Even after the death of your parents the personal guilt of you not having stood by your true image; that crack of you not to have pursued your rightful career will haunt you forever with regrets. That’s when it will also occur to you how a people who only spent a quarter of each year with you of four hours a day with exception of weekends during your studies would decide your entire lifestyle, I mean your future profession.
  Some parents decide the children’s future profession with the worst illusive judgments. Inciting that because we are scientists you deserve to study mechanical engineering; because we, your parents are lawyers you have to study law and get to the bar. Well sometimes it works but in many cases such parents mislead the children to walk the long miserable road of stress forever. What such parents do not understand is that the times there studies took shape are not the same conditions we are in today. Your child might have selected computer science as his choice of study but forcefully you want to focus his attention unto medicine. Please lets be flexible you  never know that by him or her studying computer science he might become the first person to invent the next generation of E-stethoscope for online doctors. This would be a great achievement in world full of history and certainly, not only to his field as a computer scientist but also to the medical field of which his parents wanted him to belong.
 Indeed some parents are good at advising, especially to their children who are unaware to themselves of their capabilities. The child does not know what to do, he had no ambitions at all and all his marks are clearly good. Since the child does not know himself or herself, then he or she cannot understand which profession is best suited to follow alongside their traits. They rely on the marks to work out the best profession with regard to money. However, neither the child nor the parents have considered the importance of personal traits.
  Therefore, the next time you meet with your college friend who was always first in class and now he approaches you with a wide smile relative to his smartness, do not really think he is well off. Those few minutes you met with a conversation and laughter he would have needed them more than you would. Because as you talked about the good old days he remembers all that happiness and he has reason to smile again. However, immediately you depart he forgets everything and his reactivated by stress at work and at home. The world has already deceived him that it is full of struggles and my question to him would be which kind of struggles? You can choose to either put your struggles under your control or put your struggles into another’s control. Personally as a write am in a struggle, however, I have put my struggles under my control because I know myself, I know what I want and therefore I know how to get there.
 However, if you do not know who you are, even if you understand what you want, you may not get it because your personal traits could be a hindrance to achieving your own goals. Take a case where you don’t know that you have an aggressive behavior whenever your requesting a thing from your parents, how truly would you then acknowledge the relevance of aggressiveness in a field like marketing today. Nevertheless, even if you knew that marketing requires people who are daringly aggressive it would not help you because you do not know that your persona is aggressive. Therefore, you move in this world with your talent unknown to you and your struggles are controlled by the world but are not in your own control. Behind that dark black suit your wearing there is a lot of stress killing you and unevenly you’re treating it in private because you don’t want people to know you have some problems.
 

Therefore, it is worth and significant to know who you are because it’s from this basis that you can best understand how you are going to favorably struggle, how you’re to utilize your capabilities against your weaknesses so as to succeed in life. Otherwise, if you do not understand yourself, you could be fighting in an economic war with the wrong weapons of your life and in some way you would be fighting yourself. Somehow you come to ask yourself, what is wrong with me? My answer to you is that the wrong in you is about not knowing yourself. Had you to understand that you are a natural loser that everything you do ends up in a loss, you would definitely find solutions to such misfortune. One way of healing your losing fate is by giving. In this healing circumstance of giving, you do not fight to gain anything because as you gain your likely to lose what you’ve gained and therefore its better you give. Giving is a very important part of transformation from the losing phenomenon. Indeed some people we most give not only think about how generous we are but it lives on as indebt ness to the receiver. Therefore, for many are the times we give and those persons we give will return the favor by giving. In a way you transform your losing curse through giving and through giving you’re actually making an informal saving.
 In this transformation of a loser into a winner its important to absorb that giving is not about money alone, you can give your time and energy by working for a charity, you can give a peace of advise to a young man who wants to start up a local courier service. Because of this habit of giving one day you might receive something you might never lose, it could be friendship, a job, or a gift.
  If you look into the best bonded friends we have today, we didn’t buy them, but perhaps we were there for them when they best needed our comfort, may be they had just lost something of great value, may be they receive a word of complement or inspiration from you.
 Sometimes you sit in a bus and greet somebody with a smile and indeed that person replies politely though without a smile but have you ever thought of what such a person was thinking after you had left them. That greeting with a smile might have remained on there mind and that person might decide that she or he should leave the troubles disturbing them behind and they start anew life with a new smile. That smile with a greeting to a stranger could save a person from his next dangerous mission and; “why but why should I argue with them they ask their inner souls?” In a way, you have given with a smile and the rewards are enormous, these are the people we find later on in life whom you do not remember but they remember you because you gave them something that money could not buy. Perhaps he or she was on is way to take a life but because of your smile, he or she saw the importance of how life is sweet no matter the troubles in it. Yes, himself or herself won’t tell you that he or she was going to commit suicide but he or she will remember you and in a way you gave him or her another reason to live this life. Therefore giving is not all about money, you can decide to give what money cannot buy.
  Therefore, many are the people who have realized that giving appears like a reduction on what you have but actually, it is an addition or saving that multiplies onto what you own. That is why businesses today have considered giving as part of their marketing strategy. That is why people like Mother Teresa and Lady Diana are still remembered even after there death, they lived with strangers. They may have appeared like losers but through giving, they transformed their losing curse into a winning charm. That’s why no one can take there places, you can only form your place but cannot take away what they gave to the world, it is more than all the money in the world; they gave people a reason to live-they inspired all of us. Today we know them as winners, if you believe in god and acknowledge that Mother Teresa and Lady Diana are in their rightful places for what they gave to humanity despite all the hurdles they met on earth.
 Then my dear, have you ever noticed that truly the friends we have now were once perfect strangers to us and when you look back from the way your friendship started you would realize that your first move to create a conversation between our relationship was the best time that has ever happened in your life. That is why they say, even friendship comes from God, and well as strangers can be dangerous to children its worth for adults to meet strangers and chat. That stranger could become your guiding angel; if you do not believe it then you have never lost your way to a particular destination. However, if you have ever lost your way then you will recognize that in all situations like this, it is a stranger who will guide you through a crossroad puzzle to your particular destination. This bridges me to the reality that whenever you read a novel you are actually meeting a stranger and for those who have read various novel you would agree with me how much we learn from such stranger writers-that novel could save your business in away you never expected.
 Let me emphasize that by the time your midway in college school, you should know who you are. You live a stressful life due to your ignorance about yourself despite of the degree you carry in your mind. Hence, if you come to know that you are a loser just be come and do not give up on life. Find solutions to that losing catastrophe by using it to become a winner through giving. Overall, it requires a person who understands their persona to solve such a mystery they hold.
  CHAPTER 6
 BASE YOUR DREAMS AROUND YOUR CAREER NOT MONEY
HAVE A CAREER DREAM AND NOT A MONEY DREAM
Do not base your dream on money otherwise; you might live in the greatest personal depression on earth.
 Never think that money will lead you to your dreams. I say this because everyone has a fundamental feeling that money is everything, which is not true. Today there people whose life has never tasted living without a penny but still there not happy. They work, they earn but they are not happy. They work for money but do not work to be happy. Had they to be happy they would not need a salary increment, however, because their unhappy they assume it is the little money their getting which is making them miserable and they ask for a salary increment. The salary never solves their troubles and the simple truth is that they do not love the job their doing but they do it because of the money to be attained. Their employed in a wrong career, their college decisions have affected them after twenty years in the field.
   

Everyone needs the money, whether you are a doctor, lawyer, teacher, computer expert, engineer, carpenter, nurse, writer, journalist; whatsoever your profession, every person is searching for money. This simply tells us that we use our profession to attain the money but most important of all is that you can have money and you can lose money, however, on the other side it is hard to have a profession and lose it. It is also worth to note that money cannot build your profession forever-thus we spend so less on education with an aim of earning more for along period. Therefore your profession is important than the money. Your profession cannot be expunged from your mind, body, or soul. That is why I say your profession should make you happy and hence it should be compatible to your traits. If your profession is not compatible to your personal traits then it is most unlikely not to help you and worst of all you might lose it. This is somehow a different perception compared with people who are currently earning good figures and if you truly analyze the force of there success, you will find out that it is because they value there careers and not the money.
 Therefore, that is why I say make your dream be centered on your career profession do not make your dream be based on money. If my dream career is to be a writer it would be a good basis for me to struggle for money and all I need to do is to nurse my career to the very best, in so doing money is most likely to flow through my career. However, as a writer it would be a great hindrance to obtain a loan in one bank and develop my career using a loan because certainly my career does not involve attaining loans. Therefore, what if I got a loan; published a book and it never sold at all. It means money has failed to develop my career and it cannot. Therefore the bank might lose and the writer too has lost it all, this would result into career stress and financial strain since the loan has to be paid.
  Yes, there is a saying that money makes money but money does not make happiness. Happiness is within you, the things you do that make you happy of which your profession should be a part of your happiness so that the rewards obtained from your profession make you happy too. Therefore, it is a better strategy to make your dreams based on the career rather than money.
 My intuition is that your career is best developed using money while you are still in college or university training. In this instance, we suppose that you are spending little on education compared to what you are to reap from it for the rest of your life. Hence, when you join the working fields its turn and time for your profession to bring you the money. Otherwise, if you adamantly make money to build your dream career in the workplace then when will your career make money for you, factually, you are only spending but you are not earning. Therefore, it comes a time when you cannot spend any more because you have no money to spend. I am not stopping you from attaining your next masters or doctorate degree but the question is; are you studying the right profession that corresponds with your personal traits? If not do you think by studying a master’s degree in that other career field will help your money earnings to increase?
  Now if you cannot make your profession work for you then how can money work for you, it cannot. It cannot at all because even a businessperson who thinks he makes money with money; he puts a little money in some investment so that he reaps big money in the same investment. No successful businessperson invests to make a loss; they invest because they expect big profits. Moreover, that is want your career should be, if you spend $100,000 on your education in a period of ten years it would be wise for you career to earn you $100,000 or more within three years of your working life. Therefore, that successful businessperson also invests in want makes him happy.
 The best case I would like to consider in this scenario is the likes of our sports personalities and also actors and actresses in the entertainment industry, and perhaps more prominently the musicians. These are humans who have defined who they are not because of money but because of what there profession relates to their personality and due to this fact the money flows in. Nevertheless, there are exceptions within this perspective that are a minority. These humans have defined who they are. Indeed if you’re a sports persona you will feel it from an early childhood behavior and then you will start walking out with medals either at the district level, national level or the international level. Practically for any person to reach the international scene and become a participant, it implies he is a challenge in that sports category to the competition no matter his position at the finishing point.
Notably the fundamental difference these people in the entertainment industry have is that they have known who they are and because of this awareness their careers make for them the money but it is not the money that makes them the careers. Indeed whenever you lose focus from your career to money, you are most likely not to succeed. Therefore, it is important that you regard your career as your dream so that you wisely use the career dream to gain you the money.
  Truly if you spend so much money developing your career and eventually your career brings you peanuts that is automatically a bundle of stress. You start wondering why you spent so much adding a master degree to your head and the reality is that even if you obtained a doctorate of philosophy on you head it would not change your career for the better. Indeed always, the simple truth would be that you are funding the wrong professional goal against your personality traits. You wanted to increase your earning by having another degree but does that degree move along with your personality traits. Because not; you cannot develop that degree. The degree will only remain as transcript. You are just in the wrong career.
 More still, when you attain a certain age bracket neither can you reverse career-wise nor can you go forward but you only remain in the same static career situation as you’ve been since you started financing your wrong career. So if you realize that everyday that passes your career doesn’t bring you money don’t waste time using your little savings to develop your career, it’s perhaps an indication that you’re in the wrong profession. Therefore you might need to survey yourself for the best solutions to enhance your true career otherwise these are the friends we see being unchanged from day to day, year to year. Not even a pay rise can help them achieve there material dreams because they do not know who they are.
  So how can you make your career make you money? The truth is that you will never make a career make for you money unless you know that your personal traits are much connected to your career. This is important because it becomes natural for you to like what you do and because you like what you do then you are most likely to learn more about it and develop what you do to the very best of your abilities. Therefore because your designing the interior of the house to the very best of your artistic expressions that’s why you’re going to get money. Because you have done your work with sensitive beauty, your first consumer will most honorably lead three people to your interior design offices and so will the three new customers do for you. Now the money is flowing because you choose the right career of you dreams and not by allowing the money to develop the career.
 Because you like what you do, you always think of how best to develop your career without much penny lost in advertising. The one morning a good customer and a good gossiper will tell you that people like buying from your shop because you serve with a natural smile. Personally, you did not know that your smile attracts customers until that good gossiper let the cat out of the bag. However, the important truth is that the smile comes naturally with you and it is like a manner of thanking the customer, on the other hand, the customers enjoy receiving their goods as they consume that beauty of your smile, which is seconded with a bona fide thank you. Therefore, the joy of being in a career relative to your traits helps you to make money. Otherwise, another person who would sit at the same counter when it was not is desire since high school times would have a problem to start smiling immediately as a customer walks into the shopping vicinity. This new attendant will not fell well because his intuition tells him that he is supposed to be a business owner and not a counter sales person hence a cause for stress. However, he forgets that to be a business owner is to be the first important sales person even if you are actually not at the counter. People have to see your respect in high spirits and through your face; they can tell how the business is running even if you are twenty meters away from them. Therefore, if customers notice your wicked appearance anywhere, they will always think and believe that your business is throwing you at the edge.
  Certainly, you went into business because your father was a good businessperson. However, you forgot the traits of your tough mother that you carry along with yourself. Indeed had your mother been in charge of the discount store by now the business would be lost to history. You wonder why your father managed to run the store and you have failed. The reality is that you do not know yourself and perhaps your father did not know himself too but he was in the right profession at the right time with regard to his personal traits. Truly if you knew yourself, you would be a good bodyguard with that toughness your mother gave you forever.
 Generally, if you are in the right career that dream career will make you money but if you’re in the wrong profession you’re most likely to waste money in developing your career forever.
  The Influence Of Genes
  The success of most black Americans today can be traced from their original genetical background as Africans. Their energetic bodies have propelled them to dominate particular vigor required in sport. From tiger woods to Michael Johnson or Marion Jones-that elementary strength they carry cannot be in any way inclined to the European blood source.
 

Truly even the music industry in America today is dominated by black Americans or Africa Americans whose love of tone is rooted in the African culture. Music in Africa is a day-to-day inspiration for many people, there is no continent today that is rich in music more than the African sphere.
 The many people that make American comedy brightens up can also be said to be black Americans or African Americans. Talk of Chris rock or Eddy Murphy-the truth remains that Africa is the source of laughter. In Africa laughter is what has let us through all the good and bad to the extent that even if large percentages of Africans earn less than a dollar a day you will always find Africans with humor and therefore followed by laughter, this is part and Personal to the African society.
  Hence, sometimes I wonder what the African Americans would be doing if they had not realized their inborn potential in sports, music and the film industry. Noting that even after most African Americans are regarded as free people since the civil rights struggle, more of them are still heading for a jail sentence than being employed in the American society.
 The ultimate reality is based in who we are, and this is essential in grooming our future persona. Still on the American scene it has been proved that many black men will have more than one fiancé, which reality can not be proven for white men having more than one fiancé. Continuously I maintain that this issue of having multiple women is a root from African culture.
  Thus, this leads us to a fundamental fact that no matter how much we are intended to be absorbed by another culture our inner beings of the soul, body and mind cannot be altered completely and totally. Hence, even the more than 300 years of African American living in a westernized so called civilized entity of America since slave trade, the African American is still an African in deeds.
 All other factors remaining constant, now it is important to draw a parallel to those Africans Americans who have failed and those who have become successful. Most of those who have become successful it is due to the fact that they understand who they are. On the other hand, those who are not successful; truly, they may not know who they are and do not know their capabilities.
   I would cordially advice any African American today that it is far much better for them to enroll in the military than to sell drugs. To become a respectable person in society and the society to pay you a reasonable salary is more recommendable. Then for you to handle that earning as a reward of your services to a nation, is far much better a career focus than reaching out for quick money from drugs yet the next day you will be in a cell and unable to do whatsoever you need to do.
 Building a good name is important than building wealth. You can build wealth and then leave it with your children after passing away, then your child will feed on that wealth although they might not be able to sustain that wealth in the same way you did. It implies that the wealth you built can vanish. However a good name never dies because after your passing away your children carry on your torch, wherever your children will pass; the people will say that X’s child and every time people remember you for the good things X did your children will be blessed.
  Therefore a will made with a good name is a wise man’s best asset than a will full of wealth.
 In addition, their examples of early and continued black success can be found in individual enterpeurship that served either the black or the white communities. One such black enterpreur was Madam C.J. Walker, America’s first self-made woman millionaire.
  Many people are surprised to absorb the fact that a black woman who was developing hair care products and cosmetics in the late 1800s would actually be the first self-made woman millionaire in America.
 Apart from hair products company, Madam Walker also established a chain of beauty schools in the 1880s and by 1890 she had become a millionaire, a record no American woman (white or whatever) had hitherto achieved. She was the subject of major New York Times article in 1903 when she built a 20,000-square foot mansion overlooking the Hudson River in the all-white affluent community of Irvington in New York.
   Now if you consider Madam Walker’s success it still tells you something about Africa. Long before slave trade took hold of Africa, African girls and mothers used to fashion their hair in order to beautify themselves as the girls waited for a better suitor and the mothers seduced their polygamous husbands for a night or a sacred position. The fluent thought that madam Walker would start a beauty empire can perhaps be analyzed from the very fact that white women had curled hair and therefore at the time, they did not require any hair products. On the other hand, black women perhaps needed to curl their hair; nevertheless, they had a beautiful African background of taking care of their hair. Hence, there was an African genetic influence on Madam Walker’s success.
 The other rich teacher you cannot miss to narrate how her success is compatible with her persona is Madam Oprah Winfrey. It was easy for her to join the radio as a presenter; certainly, she graduated to become a TV talk show host. Good enough her audience muiltiplied every now and then to the extent that she become a success to create her own production studio thus, also forming her into a producer. Today Madam Oprah not only owns Harpo Studios but she produces the “O” Magazine. However, all this is useless to read about Madam Oprah if you never understand that her inner talent of Public Speaking was the formula for her tremendous success. That is why in every aspect of her walk to success she has been speaking to people.
  Have you ever asked your self what Madam Oprah would have been without the art of Public Speaking?
 The truth is that she knows how to talk to people and become part of her audience; that’s  why she’s not the rich woman everybody has read about-she cries when she has too, she smiles when she has too, she laughs when she has too, she criticizes when she has too, she will dance when she has too. No wonder she also acted in the movie “The Color Purple”.
 I will conclude this chapter with a remark of inspiration that in life the first most important thing to do is to understand yourself before you wish to understand others. This helps you to learn how to relate to other people and even how to choose your friends.

As I have already noted that we’re living in the capitalist times. Thus, it’s important to acknowledge that the world has moved from one style of living to another. There was a time when the world was ruled by Philosophers, there was a period when this world was ruled by Kings and Queens. There was the era of the gods and goddesses and unforgettable is the era of Religion when the world was ruled by the powerful religions at the time. Indeed there more and more circumstantial lifestyle. However more remark is the era we’re living in, the business era. This business era is the basis of the current ruling philosophy; in that for any office to operate, let it be the Presidents’ office or any other office to operate the power and influence of the Business effects have to be considered. Therefore there is no office today that can distance itself from the business world. For that reason even a doctor or an astronaut must have Business knowledge in order to enhance their success. Many are the professions in various fields who have become victims of failure because they don’t have business knowledge. Many are the Presidents who have failed to be reelected because they had poor business/economic policies, so are the presidential Candidates who have failed in achieving their desirable opportunities. Thus to study business today is as essential as studying mathematics.

  CHAPTER 7
  

 HOW TO UNDERSTAND WHO YOU ARE
 It is time we curved our focus on how to understand who you are. It is not quite easy but it is important to guide you upon which career path you should pursue and by attaining your career dream then you are on the winning path to achieving your material dreams.
  I have already mentioned that during our primary level education all our dreams are mental illusions, indeed they are. Therefore, at such a stage never waste too much time in determining what your dream career is while basing on mental illusion. Well as these mental illusions can be important to be remembered later on, say seven years to come, they might never be of use while still in junior school. This emphasis is due to the very fact that at junior school you learn almost everything whether you like it or not and so it is like a playful study but important as we shall later on discover.
 However, when it comes to your college level education, it is the right moment to realize your practical and academic stand. This is an important step because it is at such a period that your adolescence controls your body, mind and soul; and it’s during this process that your most likely to gain certain mature habits and also loose some other habits. It is not wise to believe that the adolescent stage only activates your sexuality but it is important to consider it as well. At this stage, it is significant to acknowledge that even your mind grows, indeed you start understanding the world from another sky angle. You are no longer a child asking for ice cream but this is a period when you also try to find out how ice cream is processed. Therefore, it is a very important developmental stage in life.
  It is during this phase that you should start monitoring your personal behaviors and traits. Try to understand how often you do a particular piece of work, how often you socialize, try to consider everything that is a part of life. As you analyze everything you do in a day for about hundred days consequently you will find a lot of actions you perform weekly, others monthly and surprisingly you will find out that there are some things you react upon almost daily. However, before this exercise started you had not noticed that particular habit in you. As you continue to analyze your daily life, try not to consider those items that are an addiction for you to do.
 Indeed some of the actions as you will find out there connected to the people you live with. Perhaps your brother folds his sleeves and so you will realize that you also foldyour sleeves everyday. This can be a passion and a career connection in the fashion business. You might immediately believe to become a good designer and think that your first assignment would be to redesign your brother’s sleeves so that he stops folding those shirtsleeves. As you think in terms of being a fashion designer, actually you might not be one because you have thought of only redesigning the shirtsleeves but you might be a better model who is ready to taste any latest designs.
  Nevertheless as you examine your personal traits, you need to recognize how there related in terms of your individuality and your social atmosphere. You have to analyze every finding with relation to human basics. For instance, you might find your money behaviors being evil to yourself since you have no habit of saving but on the social ticket, you might come up as the best custodian for a group’s savings. This in itself teaches you how important you consider the team spirit and indeed it might gesture to you that its important you work in a bank, since you would be able to handle the company finances and as you continue working in a bank, you might also learn to save your finances. Therefore, for every habit you recognize that is affecting your daily life try to analyze it on the basis of individual aspects and social aspects. Then each aspect should also be analyzed against another upon its effects so that you absorb the merits and demerits of every habit you have known to be carrying around. In addition, you need to consider your grade; if really you think your personal traits are focusing you on becoming a Teller in the bank, then are your grades above average in the subjects of either finance or accounting.
 So you continue analyzing those actions you express everyday with a passion and indeed if you believe that a day which passes without visiting the laboratory is really a boring bad day; noticeably you will understand your passion for the lab and in so doing you should be inclining  your studies towards living and being a lonely person. Otherwise if you are very social it means even the lab will miss you later on as you might not do well in the field of being a biological researcher. Indeed if the actual and only time you like the lab is the time tabled period, it truly means that the lab will only help you obtain your degree but might never be a part of your life any further than helping you to obtain that academic transcript.
 

Has I have noted before, continuous analysis of your situation should consider the bad part of yourself. Evaluate whether you hate working with others or not and if not, when working; do you want to be the boss or you can accept to be a subordinate?  Then if you are boss-oriented do you treat your colleges well or you are the barking dog towards them even though you are only giving trouble-free instructions. In a way, you are handling your peace through an analysis of yourself and the social workplace. Therefore, if you were the barking type, would it serve you honor and prestige among your employees or subordinates? Wouldn’t the job give you stress and even everlasting enmity on the work scene? Truly if you have personally accepted that you are the barking boss and some how you want to be an administrator, I believe it would serve you justice to join the hotel industry as a caterer. Because in this field you will have to bark out customer orders over the hissing sounds of vibrating cooking oil and crying noises of their kitchen saucepans and pestles. You are simply analyzing how compatible are your behaviors while moving hand in hand with the work you deserve to occupy later in life.
 After discovering your true personal behaviors and traits, then it is time you look at your grade scores. Explore if your required subjects to help you achieve your dream career have good scores. If such subject has poor scores forget about that career or else you need more than effort to achieve good scores for the career. On the other hand, I would not like you to strain the brain in understanding what it has failed to memorize. I would subsequently believe that like your personal traits there some traits that shout out louder than you know and other traits sleep quietly; so is your brain. You certainly cannot be poor at everything in very subject and indeed if you look at a particular subject that you obtained an average make of 50% you would also recognize that out of those 50% mark, 95% of the mark was obtained by answering a particular question related to may be summarizing numerous figures into analytical reports. Consequently, then you would appreciate the fact that this can lead you to become a good statistician in later times. Therefore by appreciating the fact that you can be a statistician it’s important to understanding the working realities attached to such a job and the compare how those working conditions of being a statistician bridges with your personality behaviors and qualities.
  Not that you must have the very best in marks scores. Certainly not at all, because if you are the barking type, you may not operate as a good practical teacher. Otherwise, this might stress you later on in life as students leave the college because of your barking; accordingly, you might be the next person to leave the college and then fail to receive any other receptive college because of your history. Therefore, why do not you consider becoming an engineer although your marks in mathematic and physics are standing at average? Engineering will help you keep on barking through the noisy machines and other speeches as you pass on information to a subordinate. You work with your personal traits without causing harm to another and you are able to keep your job and friends. The subordinates will always think it is because of the grader moving that you are barking.
 However, if that field does not suit you please study what you want and then join the armed forces you might be the right person they will require on the wireless battlefield. For that reason, it would be important to appreciate that immediately after your teaching degree you head for the military recruitment centre. In the military you will be a superb person otherwise your degree in education backed with a natural behavior trait of yowling might never serve you good in a meticulous society because you risk losing the job altogether or being on suspension every now and then and above all making enemies who would otherwise have been friends.
  By understanding your behavior individuality and also understanding the type of career you fit in, and then I assume you’ve analyzed what it takes to achieve your dream career. Because as much as you consider particular career being suitable for yourself it is important to appreciate and understand that the behaviors and traits of the career match with your personality. Indeed different careers carry different qualities and my balancing guide on this topic is that if the ways of behaviors and traits you naturally carry on the earth aren’t compatible with the ways of behaviors and traits practiced in a particular profession then wisely reconsider yourself analysis and the line of business you want to take. Otherwise, if you continue to demand for such a career that is negative to relate with you, then you might find a stressful profession environment. The basic fundamental reason why you should reconsider your occupation choice is engrossed in the very fact that you might not change the behaviors and traits of a particular career. Indeed the reasonable solution any person would do is to find a career that is compatible to the profession’s behavior and traits he or she holds; this will relieve you from a lot of stress later in time.
 All this we are analyzing for the seek of having a bright future free from job stress and having a career that brings you the money and all the other material dreams. You need to have a career that you will enjoy practicing so that you develop it at a less cost and compassionately so that you have a better lifestyle designed according to your behaviors and traits.
  If your past adolescent age cannot help you understand yourself then try to go back in time. Remember your childhood, and look through it step by step. You recall how you pushed that childhood friend from your chair; yes, it means you do not want to share. Indeed when you look into your life today, you would recognize that your book and pen have never been touched by anybody else apart from yourself. Then you have already captured one of your behavior traits- you never want to share with others.
 However, as you continue to memorize how you pushed away that childhood friend from your chair, you also remember that immediately after the incident you gave that childhood friend another chair to sit on. Please, kindly conclude that although you do not want to share, however, you can give. Indeed when you look into your lifetime today, you see a string of people you have given more than enough without asking for anything in return. Now you question yourself were do I fall professionally? You do not want to share but you always give away. Somehow, you fill as if you are not social and at the same time you feel as the most social individual. As a living thinker, I believe there is something good for you and therefore if you created a charity organization you could live your true life as an angel of God to the disadvantaged. It would be a good job that would allow you to keep want you earn and at the same time to help you give away want deserved to be offered to the public without negatively affecting your personal dreams and developments.
  Therefore you wisely remember the past childhood behavior and conditionary try to think if you still hold those behaviors today. Reasonably the very fact that you may still maintain such behavior its away of letting you acknowledge who you are now. Then if you compare the past and the current without finding a link between the two, which simply means you lost the past childhood behavior it implies you cannot use historical incidence to prove who you are today.
 As a writer, I look back in time and remember how every evening I would run to my grandmother’s hut and ask her to tell us a folk story. Indeed she always had a tale to tell and no matter how many times she repeated the same story, it always stayed fresh, better and memorable. At the end of the narration, she would then ask what the story meant. At that time, we would often have very many answers but she would have one good great new answer to her question. In a way, I have appreciated that stories are learning lessons and therefore due to our personal inner being differences one might love the murder part of the story and another might adore the love scene of the same story. However, no matter the side you fall on in any story, the fact remains that it relates to your inner being and therefore your understanding. Whether you are emotional by either crying or by laughing about any story; it shows who you are. That is why when watching either a horror movie or sad moving scene well as many people might be emotionally close to tears there could be another person(s) who are excited about the same move or scene.
  The sequential evening when we needed another story to escape into our ears, grandmamma would find away of making us narrate one of the stories she had told us. We did this with a memorable gamble as we tried to pick up the lost pieces of the story. As I look back now, I truly know she was my first teacher in my dream career. In many ways, she made me love stories. Indeed, that’s why I came to love the stories of the bible too. I very well remember the many times in primary level and college level when I got hold of a bible to read a story, not because it was part of my syllabus to cover but the bible stories gave me piece of mind and would bring back memories of grandma’s stories. Therefore, in many ways I have traveled with my dream career, however, had I not recognized my writing abilities and story loving personality perhaps I would be doing something so different from myself-behaviors or persona. Precisely I would not like the work I do but because of the money I would be working, therefore this would call for stress every working day just because I would not have known myself. Now I am stress free because of a decision I took several years ago, the decision I stand on now and the decision I will stand on tomorrow.
 I have come to recognize that the lives we live are stories, each one of us has a good and bad story to tell although normally bad stories sell better. And more so that each one of our stories is intertwined with other stories from other people; that is why even a monologue play is truly not a monologue basing on the very fact that it is designed for an audience, otherwise without the audience even a monologue is incomplete.
  However, you can have a thousand stories in your head that you cannot write. I concisely mean you having the ability of story telling but not having the writing ability, and so the reserve is true, you can have the ability to write but lack the wisdom to tell a story. In addition, you can have numerous stories in your mind when you can neither write them nor narrate the stories.
 Somehow, in a grace of wonder during my college level studies I made a decision to become a writer. By then writing was not my problem and to sum up the writing skill I had a creative mind. This creativity also runs back to my childhood, I played with ideas; I mimicked almost everything that fascinated me. In many circumstances, I was the stubborn child who never knew my stubbornness, because I was actually learning by playing with ideas. Besides all these, I was a child who required the truth and as per now the greatest enemy I will have is a liar. Indeed, during my college studies I thought to become a judge later in life due to the very fact that I value the truth. However, to become a judge would have required me to start as a lawyer at the bar; which profession I truly liked so that I could defend the innocent but deep down myself I knew how I couldn’t pass the test of being a lawyer because of my modesty. Now, all in my entire career today has a great connection to my past and what I cannot do has a link to my past.
  Therefore, your childhood can have a good clue to what you can do best. Because if you were truly a child who was always in hiding you could be a good detective later in life since you would know all the necessary corners of safety. If you are a child who fixed your mother’s shoe, you could become a good shoe repair and the next idea besides you would be aiming at owning a shoe factory. Then as you appreciate the style of shoes by knowing that the latest shoe has to match with a hand bag you will consequently start producing hand bags and the next best thing you will be enjoying is being labeled a fashion designer, with your own fashion house. Apparently, you no longer dress your mother alone but every woman. These are the fruits our behavior or traits lead us to and if only we understand ourselves better then we can choose the best routes to take that would not stress us and at the same time the routes that would fill us with pleasure.
 We have tried to learn how to recognize our personal behaviors and traits while adolescents and using our childhood history database. Nevertheless, even if you have passed the adolescence age; you can still try to discover those actions that often gave you internal pleasure. However, it is possible that the life you lived during childhood and through your minor age was a tough time. A time to tough that you lost yourself because you are under pressure from parents or guardians; everything you participated in was because of their given orders. Indeed, you are now in the late twenties but you do not know yourself. My advice would be that you start with tricking a friend or ask that friend to let you know about your personal habits. Make sure you’re seriously in need of learning your true self and let your friend or any other person who has stayed with you for a long period of time not hide any of your bad habits in your face by covering them with only good characters. Anyone who ever tries out this trick he is most likely to discover is true habits if only your friend is sincere.
 

However, what you should always understand and it has been often said that the truth hurts. Indeed if you are told about yourself and it hurts you, just don’t fight back or break off that friendship but ask yourself what is the importance of this bad behavior that is hurting me. To save your relationship ask yourself that if your friend knew how ill hearted you are why then did he or she have to cope up with you as a friend. What you might never know is that he or she befriended you perhaps to change your bad habit or even to let people believe that you are not bad hearted as they might have thought of you. At times, she or he might be more ill hearted than yourself because always birds of the same feathers flock together, thus you might be sharing a particular personality although not all qualities.
 On the other hand, your friend might fear to say the truth.  Perhaps he has never considered understanding your habits, and maybe what other people think of as your ill habits is why your friend likes you and therefore he hardly can classify such habits as being bad. In such a situation, your friend is of no help. However if your friend only fears to say the truth they had better know that the truth hurts but likewise the truth relieves. That is why most times you speak the truth about someone you change that person for the better; if such a person is wise to understand the importance of words being narrated to him or her. That person may never tell you want is going on in his or her life but because you said the truth, you might have triggered off a wave of transformation in that person’s life. That bad habit, if deeply analyzed with regard to your good habits it can lead you to a wonderful career.
  However, if you have been either oppressed or otherwise and believe that not even your friend can know your behaviors and traits and perhaps there hidden in you; the truth is that those personal traits have a meaning in your life, the behaviors can carry a thought of evil but they can also carry an elementary ability of good fortune. That rough past must have modeled you to perhaps being a hardworking person in so much a manner that  you cannot sit for ten minutes without doing a piece of work. Indeed, what was tough has now become an impulse of your lifeline to become a hardworking person. In many ways, I believe you also have a career field to fit in. You can end up being an asset in a manufacturing company that works for twelve hours a day, seven days a week. Your energetic workaholic trait position sees you through as you start replacing enough lazy personal in better positions because they spend four hours resting on the job. Therefore do not despair and just cast away that spiritually given habit when you really cannot live without it. That habit could be a guiding light to your dream career and indeed, it will lead you to your material dreams.
 Now you have known how your habits can bridge you to a dream career and propel you into the right direction of your future. A better future in which you can work for 45 weekly hours and return home without gaining work burn-outs. The career you can drive so that you obtain your material dreams with ease.
  CHAPTER 8
  YOUR MONEY HABITS AND CAREER HABITS
  Notably in life, nothing is complete in itself; you have obtained your dream career but not your material dreams. I mean, perhaps you need a car, a house and other assets in life. Then be rest assured you would have family responsibilities. The point I am about to touch is important that it would fall into your social or individual behavior traits analysis of your career. This point can also fall both into your social and individual behaviors. This point is significant that I lighten it up now. Well as this behavior can be a personal trait, it’s also a social trait shared by many people at ago. This behavior is concerned about the ultimate aim every person is looking for, the behavior of how we handle money. It is a landmark behavior in the aspects related to your personal behavior, to your dream career, to social behavior and without considering the behavior that can be shared by millions of people you would have rendered your material dreams at unachievable status. The habit is about money handling; every person should consider understanding his money handling habits if they want to achieve their material dreams.
 This money handling habit will help you know if you would require a job that perhaps pays monthly, hourly, offers advances and allowances, whether you would be able to handle personal businesses or you had better buy shares or invest in  equitable assets, whether you would be able to handle a loan and service it or not. When you answer this money behavior or trait question by understand that you are flamboyant, extravagant and have never saved any single coin for more than a month. You had better acknowledge that yes you can go in for a loan but serving it might cause you a lot of stress especially if that loan didn’t enhance your personal material dreams which implies that you could have wasted the money in unworthy materials. It should have been better if you had not at all obtained that loan. However this will depend on the terms of receiving the loan and where you’re getting the loan from. For instance, a loan got from the bank on the surety of your employer is easy to service for people who cannot either save or make profits. Because it not only help you in building your dream either house or car in the shortest time possible but it also helps you in protecting your job since the employer cannot terminate your operations before complete repayment of the loan.
  Therefore in choosing a career have a plan on how that job will help you invest some money in equitable assets especially if you’re extravagant and ultimately in a away you would expand your sources of income at the same time keeping your extravagant trait. On the other hand, if you have a habit of saving; be rest assured you can handle a loan with peace but still that will depend on want the loan was used to achieve. For instance, if you use a loan for short-term asset purchasing at a certain time when serving the loan you might find remarkable stress going with your payments especially if you bought some items that are not essential and quickly you lose anxiety over such items. Nevertheless for a person with a savings instinct even a monthly job or daily paying job can do good for your target of a achieving material dreams through designing your career dream.
 Therefore, your money handling habits are important in selecting your dream career otherwise you could achieve your dream career and sadly, your money handling habits fail you in developing your material dreams. Because you are tempted to steal some of the company’s money, you lose your dream job and yet you have to service the loan if the employer did not secure it. Ultimately, your repetition is pushed to the edge and the family’s responsibilities are increasing by each day, all this results into total depression that could even reactivate your thoughts to think of suicide if you are not strong enough.
  In this world today, we have people earning a monthly worth of $3500 but there not developing. Indeed, they know their money habits, however, their unaware of how the mode of payment to them affects their development abilities. Consider that I am flamboyant and extravagant; I would suppose its better to be paid in a huge lap sum so that I am able to fix almost this entire big lap sum earned into an investment like property or buying of share to multiply my money inlets. Therefore want might be failing your developments could be the way money is passed unto you, perhaps you’re paid monthly and you use all the money at once on petty things. Otherwise had there to be a better flexible mode of payment to you with regard to your money handling habits, you would be developing your material dreams at an unbelievable pace. Hence, as you study or analyze your personal habits its important to include and scrutinize your money handling behavior so that you can adverse a good correlation to selecting a career and ultimately enhance the achievements of your personal material dreams.
 Now your behavior traits about money and other social and individual issues are well known to you and you are heading for your dream career. My notice is that you need to see the future of your career and how it will impact on your personal and social behavioral traits. If you realize today every career is in the transformation pipeline due to the impact of technology. Therefore be rest assured to learn about technology in line with your future career otherwise it will not help you to lag behind in these fast moving technological times. Many are the careers that are being redesigned, these days a secretary is no longer a person who stays on the typewriter alone but he is a secretary of high value not because he is using a computer but he is a legal advisor in many ways to the company. Because numerous documents from different departments pass through the secretary’s desk, it simply implies that he or she should be well knowledgeable with the impact of each document to the company. Therefore, in today’s office every one is partly a secretary since even the Executive Director no longer passes on documents to the old management secretary to type but he does the work himself.
  If you examine at the accounting profession with regard to development of software being upgraded everyday, you will realize that any person in the company is partly an accounts assistant. It practically requires them to only enter the appropriate figure in the right column or row of a particular accounting software and automatically the rest of the accounts already in the file will adjust their arithmetic position according to the entered figure. This implies that as years unfold we are to see large companies with only two or three accountants. This therefore means that to be successful in the field of accounting you would require to have the best qualifications in the world. Otherwise having less that the best yet you know that the computer has taken over most of your clerical work leads to a situation of joblessness and therefore your stress levels start rising.
 Therefore as you study, you need to understand the future of your dream career, otherwise you risk completing your degree studies and then find out that what you studied at college that led you to university was far different from what is on the ground in that dream career. For that reason, it is important to read the future of your dreams by attaching yourself with magazines regarding your future career, read news columns about your career, browsing the internet for the seek of your career. Read mostly about your career long before you are in university and certainly, you will be already moving in the right direction with your career long before you even achieve your dream career degree.
 

While studying you need to understand the market worth for your career. Its unfortunate for developing countries who never have statistics on how many qualifications are in the economy, how many qualifications are in use and how many qualifications aren’t in use and indeed which types of qualifications are most required by the economy at a particular time. The lack of this kind of statistics propels students to make wrong decisions basing on are mare aim of obtaining a degree rather than relying on statistics and there persona. Nevertheless, any serious student needs to understand the future market potential of their desired career.
 My own lesson as an African writer is that the reading culture in Africa is as poor as the writing culture. Africans never read widely even when they are educated; we intend to take reading as a boring event. However if you psychologically analyze the cause upon why Africans take reading as a bore it’s rooted in the very fact that they’re reading boring books while at college. Indeed most students are studying a course or program they did not like and all they wanted is to own a degree.  Such books have already put a psychological impact for your dislike about any book. Indeed on the other side of the coin, if you find a person who has done a course of his likes and according to his personal traits you will recognize him with a wealth of a library in the field of his study and genuinely having some other books from different fields. However, such people are countable in the African setting.
  Personally, I partly wanted to write the stories of my people, not because there no readers but because the stories are fading away with the death of a generation of true African grand parents. The current generation of African westernized grand parents have no story telling abilities, have no story writing abilities and have no story reading abilities. On another note writing is not an easy career to build especially in a society were a very small proportion of the population are interested in reading. Nevertheless, I believe that as people drive there souls into the reading habit; books about Africa will sale more in times to come. With an aim of letting people understand the African culture; the time when those who are to come after us will need to know how those who came before us lived. Therefore, it was and still is important for me to read and learn a wider perspective of writing so that I can feature into other fields of writing like western fiction and humanities in order to enhance my progress as I wait for my future stakes to mature.
 Like the greens so are we people when it comes to career development. The ground you place your seeds into is as important as your kindergarten school. Indeed different grounds yield different harvests; however, putting your seeds in the right soils will always help you to harvest the best fruits. If you do not have the ability to water your seeds forever then you had better plant mangoes seeds because with this mango, you only water it through the initial stages of growth and then it takes off from there. If you believe, you can water your seeds as long as they need water you can plant those three-month maturing seeds noting that you reserve some seeds after the harvest for the next season.
  Therefore, if you only understand your habits you can as well understand which type of plants is best for you to farm. Indeed, as you plant you look forward upon the market for your produce, truly if you manage to produce a lot; which much isn’t purchased, this offers you reasons why you think of preservation measures and exporting your produce to the market were its scarce and also changing the type of plant you cultivate. The fundamental fact is that when you plant what you can water you will never go wrong about it; it will always mature. However, the other question of whether you will sell your produce will always arise after harvesting.
 Therefore, it is important to understand the future market trend of your dream career and wisely appreciate how best you can maneuver through all anticipated career hurdles. It helps you in such away that from an early stage of life you are moving with your dream career. Helping yourself to understand its disadvantages and advantages so that you can get ready to combat any discrepancies. It also guides you to appreciate that all careers are different and therefore, they take different maturity periods. Some career dreams can be achieved immediately after your degree others take two years to materialize, other careers can take up to five years and indeed other careers can take up to twenty years to mature. Nevertheless the important issue here isn’t how long it takes a particular career to mature but the wisdom of it is that are you doing what god designed you to do. Your personal qualities could have been modeled so that you’re to achieve your career in a long term basis and personally you think its better for you to quickly get employed and start earning to much. Indeed you earn too much but with enough stress and by the time twenty years pass your salary hasn’t improved your life and it might never improve your life because you’re in the wrong profession and you don’t know yourself as a person. However had you been patient with your true self through the twenty years you would have lived a modest life and by the clock of twenty years in the field of your behavior traits you would be counting endless achievements and as you look back you can always note and see where it all started from, “understanding who you are.”
  consequently, if you have analyzed your personal traits calling you to be an archeologist while living in Latin America, it would be appropriate to consider traveling all over the ancient areas of habitation. This implies that according to your dream career and its market you might need to spend some of your time outside Latin America and therefore you would do well to be in Africa for a while. This helps you to study more through actual practice and analysis about existing archeological discoveries whilst you point out an amazing detail, which was not noticed before by the last group of archeologists on the same archeological site. Due to your astuteness, you might become the most demanded archeologist sought for as a university lecturer in the world. Hence, it is important to understand the effect of market trends with regard to your dream career.
 Evidently, it is better to say that your dislikes and likes are important in helping you to analyze your personality and hence, do not think that your bad habits are unworthy; they may be the answer to your dream career. Today many people are earning a better living as comedians and truly if you looked back through these comedians past while they where in college; they were also the most funny and abusive humans alive. Indeed, to others you miss the fact that you did not go to the same college. However, beneath all those clown behaviors and antics is a person who is happy to do what he knows best and a person who has transformed his abusive antics into a stage earning activity and above all these is a person who is doing what he wants because he knows who he is in this world.
  Therefore, that bad inclination can be a good thing and an attribute for your future dream career. Thus, you can even remember those ugly words that stage comedian threw at you while at school. You got annoyed but now he is making you forget your stress because you are laughing as if you have never laughed before.  Indeed, when you are at work and remember your college mate who is as of now a comedian you just burst into laughter and for only the few antics he made on stage last weeked night they often keep a smile of happiness on your face. Internally you appreciate that this world has its sweet side no matter the state you’re living in. It’s a former college student who abused you and now he is lifting up your spirits to the joys of this world.
 If this world has got legal jobs designed from bad habits, which result into excellent careers what about the good habits. That type of student who will say thank you even after being slapped by a teacher could become a good waiter. As time moves on, the hotel owner would realize that on the days you’re off duty the hotel never attains an average number of its customers and indeed your time of duty brings more customers to the hotel because you delightfully say thank you after serving customers. Truly your habit has created you to become an asset of the hotel and if your boss has noted the variations of customer attendance and how it relates to you personality, I would suppose he doubles you salary so that you increase your time of work at the hotel. Otherwise to train other waiters and waitresses to start saying thank to the customers they serve this new customer care attitude might only take shape for one week and then they return to their normal routine of not thanking customers. Therefore, that good habit can as well sell you in the market.
  However, as I have noted before one habit does not independently determine your career, it should be related with other habits or behaviors you inhabit. As a result, as you compare all your habits, some habits will weigh a strong influence over others and it is always important to make strong decisions thereby accepting a particularly strong habit to guide you against your weak habits.
 Conclusively, just as you understand the dislikes and likes of your personality, so you should know the danger and rewards of that dream career you have chosen to move with for the rest of your life. In many ways if you recognize that your personality traits or behaviors can guide your mindset in understanding your true destined career, you will be surprised upon how much personal developments you accomplish on this earth while your mind is at peace. Because you are doing exactly want you can do best, because you’re living a life free from stress and because it’s your habit bringing you the money.
  CHAPTER 9
  The Persona-Your Body, Mind And Soul
 

Today every individual is fighting to become competitive against the others, so what about every industry. As long as capitalism exists, the signals of rising production and increasing profits will always sound fresh without undermining quality. However, the instinct that never becomes obvious in the business world is pay rise; until a strike signal is sparkled. Immediately the pay rise is approved, this goes hand in hand with job cuts and therefore thousands and thousands of employees are definitely stressed long before there retrenchment was implemented. Nevertheless, if you look at the so called lucky employees whose luck is based on the circumstantial fact that their not retrenched and indeed they obtained a pay rise instinctively they also obtained a rise in workload.
 Because of your heavy workload you actually become more resultantly stressed due to the very fact that you do not want to do anything after you day’s work. More so because you’re afraid of another possible retrenchment you can’t even decide on leaving the job and truly the current job doesn’t give you personal time to look around for another job. Those are all your personal feelings about work but have you ever asked yourself the company’s feeling about work; the simple answer is that your hard work is important for the company because it has to make profits at minimal costs incurred and somehow your pension fund account might start receiving less and less monthly remittance.
  This is the world we are moving into and people have to embrace it otherwise it seems like there is no turn back point we have against capitalism. So how do we live in a world that is demanding so much from us, when you are not doing what you where born to do. You think this world requires hard work to survive but I say that the world requires relevant work to survive. For a person who is working in a filed were his traits and personality are compatible with the job you don’t find his vocabulary with burnouts  and stress because everyday he is doing that piece of work he likes to do and indeed such a person fills bad to live work just because it’s time to go  for a siesta. This person is always longing for tomorrow because he loves his work and truly is work is compatible with his personal traits. The other person who thinks work is all about hardworking the only good day about his career is the pay day and indeed if the pay day wasn’t there he would have left the job altogether.
Truly, the world demands so much from us in this age but I believe we can serve it without having those burn outs and this means having a career that is compatible with your persona.
I have written a lot about this word “personality” as in regard to behaviors or traits and you may think its obvious yet I know many people who can’t relate it in life. In this book and to myself; personality is the psychological and philosophical relationship between a person’s body, mind and spirit or soul. Body, mind and soul are the three important and complete segments every human being holds. These three define who you are, these three can make you happy or they can make you sad. You can leave your house behind as you go to work or you can ignore your car in the park and use a bicycle or even leave the bicycle and you use your natural ability to move but you can never leave your body, mind and soul anywhere on earth, you have to move with it where ever you go. Whether you’re dressed or undressed you will always live with your body, mind and soul no matter which state of life your in so long as you’re not dead.
Justly, the beginning of stress starts from either the body or the mind or the spirit. If your body does something that your mind doesn’t like in most cases the mind will never bother to store it in the good balls books of its memory. As the body continues doing that particular thing that the mind doesn’t want , the mind gets more and more stressed and as a result you have may be a headache or memory disorder because the mind is unwilling to accept the kind of work your body is doing.
On the other hand, if your mind likes something that your body cannot do, you are going to find yourself with great burnouts and sometimes you think you are working when actually you are doing less than what an average person would have done in such similar circumstances. Therefore, still your body is going to be stressed despite the fact that your mind wishes that you practice a particular peace of work.
The above two instincts of the body and mind being divided in ones personality is an open example  to total stress and comparatively a sign that somebody who doesn’t know what he wants or what is capable of and what he is unable to do. However, humans are gifted animals in away that the body and mind can be trained to appreciate and accept what it once disliked; that the body can transform its inabilities into great capabilities. Nevertheless, despite this transformation that you can let your mind and body move in unison, it is important to analyze that new personality you are taking on and its impact to your spirit or soul.
Life is a happy jolly time because of what you are able to do and precisely because you did what you were born to do.  Through understanding yourself, you lived a happy life for every day second of any minute, every day of your life and for 365 days a year, you were always having a happy time and indeed, you have no regrets about the life you lived. For only one reason I have to expose to you, 90% of us who have got this chance to live can be truly happy if we only knew ourselves. However, there will never be a time when 90% of us living are all millionaires or billionaires. Therefore, in many ways we should find pleasure in the things our body, mind and spirit can do rather than in the things money can do. Because when you think of money it is simply the beginning of all sorrowful life and therefore its better you think of legal things you can do using your mind, body and spirit that they rather bring you the money. Thus money should always be second to your persona and therefore your profession.
 The worst experience you will live with in this world whether your rich or poor is to have lived a life you didn’t know and never to have done the abilities of your mind, body and spirit when you were capable of doing so and indeed implying that you didn’t know who you were while living on earth. In simple terms your living was perhaps a mistake.
  Lastly always remember you cannot please everyone but never try to displease yourself. Life is too wonderful to live it unknowingly.
 You may as well dispute my writings and profoundly I would judge you and say perhaps you would do well as a critic it is also a profession these days.